It doesn't matter where you start - just do it!
Coaching opens up mental space for people to discover (or create) and use their own solutions to their own challenges. That helps people develop themselves. So leaders who use coaching are 'delegating' thinking and learning - not just delegating tasks.
SPACE is also a useful acronym for the keys to success in coaching:
S = Situation - Work on specific example situations, because you are not trying to change them completely, just help break their habitual patterns in specific situations where it is not helpful
P = Perception - Explore how they see things, ie what they are focusing attention on, and what is being triggered by what they see. Help them to see that their reality is subjective not objective!
A = Attention - Pay full attention, using not just ears, but your eyes and the rest of your body - noticing their breathing, body language and your own emotional and physical reactions
C= Curiosity - Avoid pre-judging the answer you think they 'should' come to. If you can make it a 'voyage of discovery' for both of you, you may find their solution is better than yours. Great!
E= Empathy - Recognise (and acknowledge appropriately) any difficult emotions which arise during the coaching. If the topic creates no emotion... it probably isn't that important!
The model (from Daniel Ofman) links the various starting points which might trigger coaching,
"The longest journey starts with a single step" Lao Tzu
For occasional insights based on applying these ideas in real life, please follow this link to the eqivalent "chapter" of my blog site: