The starting point is whatever works best for you 

The best approaches engage all parts of the brain - conscious and unconscious, rational and emotional, mind and body. Good coaches start from what is easiest to engage with.  


Left brain methods work directly with your conscious awareness / cognitive thinking, eg via:

- Listening with attention focused on emotions, unconscious assumptions and attitudes 

- Using maps and models which help provide a new focus or perspective 
  (simple 2x2 grids, personality types eg NEO / MBTI / Centaur, Transactional Analysis etc) 

- Working with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) based approaches ​

Right brain / experiential methods are often more powerful in enabling change and work directly with your unconscious awareness / sensory systems, eg via: 
- Work with images, drawing, visualisation, and story telling 
- ​Empty chair / two chair enactment (and other forms of "real play") 

- Observing (and working with) the patterns of interaction between coach and client 
- Physical mapping of systems ​(ultimately including "constellations") 

Ongoing regular practices are what embed the learning and make changes permanent.

"I hear and forget, see and remember, do and understand" Lao Tzu