Why perception is the key to change
We do only after we see, then feel, then (maybe) think 

Consciously deciding to do something differently often does not work, because of the dominance of the limbic. You need to recognise how it compromises your thinking, then work to re-train limbic perception (eg via self-reflection, coaching and deliberate practice). 

 

The problem is that we are typically unaware that our thinking is compromised - we assume our thinking is separate to feeling (objective) - because it feels like it is. But it's really not! 

The limbic is the first part of the brain to react to stimuli from our external senses (eyes, ears etc) and it pre-determines in milliseconds our emotional response to the event, situation, or person based on a form of pattern matching to explicit or implicit (unconscious) memories from previous experiences or our early development. It instantly judges things as "good" or "bad", and this emotional response changes our thinking. We literally think differently depending on whether we see things as good or bad. And sometimes we react without thinking at all! 

 

You have to deduce (vs 'feel') when and how your thinking is being unhelpfully compromised by paying more attention to your emotions - especially fear and anger (ie negative emotions). ​

"The limbic only learns by experience" Dr Alexis Johnson